Do you want to invest in personal growth, but you don’t seem to have the time or energy?
I had this vision of the woman I wanted to be, but it felt like there were so many obstacles in the way. Time constraints, being a mom, being a wife, family obligations, it sometimes felt like my focus was on everything except for me.
Have you been there? When you so badly want to focus some time on YOU, but it feels like everything is stacked against you?
The struggle is real, but I want to tell you that they are ways to push past it, and get the self care you deserve.
Here are 3 simple tips for personal growth that will help you make time for yourself, and start your own personal transformation.
1) Start Small
If you have not been making time for yourself, it’s not realistic to think you can just dive into all the things. The best approach is to focus on one small thing at a time. And that seems totally doable, right? You can carve out 5, 10 or even 20 minutes even on the busiest days. Or pick 1 habit to change and stick with it.
Here are some ideas to get you started. Making these kinds of changes have had the biggest impact on my life.
If you are trying to be more intentional in your life, and want to feel more calm, peaceful & centered, start with a quick 5-minute meditation each morning, before you get out of bed. Here is a free meditation you can use to get you started.
- If you want to gain more energy and become more active, then go out on a walk a couple times a week. The best part with this one, is you can bring the whole family along, while you still work towards our goals.
If you want to feel your best from the inside out, and start eating healthier, pick one “junk food” that you are currently eating too often. Commit to removing it from your diet for at least 30 days. Not sure what to cut out? The best places to start are with food and/or drinks that contain added sugars (stuff like soda or other sweetened drinks, candy, cookies, ice cream, etc.). Another food item you can consider focusing on are refined carbs, or the processed stuff (think crackers, chips, cereals, etc). Or maybe you are drinking too much caffeine or alcohol, both which can cause inflammation to your body. Then you may consider taking a break with your coffee (if you just like the taste like I do, you can switch to decaf) or take a break on that wine habit (which I know is an easy habit to get stuck in during quarantine...been there!).
And if you know you want a change, but aren’t really sure what you want, then I encourage you to check out this blog post I wrote all about finding your purpose.
Small wins are going to make you feel good for accomplishing something and help you to realize that you can do it. As you gain more confidence, you can expand what you are doing, and get closer to that vision you have in your mind.
2) Schedule The Time
This one was a game changer for me. You know you want to do something for yourself, now you need to block off the time on your calendar, and make that commitment to yourself.
So for example let’s say you want to meditate each morning, or do a short workout. Find a time that will generally work for you. I highly suggest first thing in the morning if you can make that work. Then show up for it!
This is the thing. Sometimes stuff will get in the way. That is life. For me, my biggest obstacle is usually working around my kids. I love them to the moon and back, but they can definitely throw a wrench in my self care plans.
This was the part that I had a hard time with. It is OK. Don’t beat yourself up about it. The important thing to remember is YOU need to show up for yourself.
If you show up, and the kids wake up 30 minutes earlier than usual and don’t allow you to finish, or let’s say you walk downstairs to find that the dog peed and pooped all over the floor last night, and you now need to spend your time cleaning it up (yup, been there done that).....then it still counts as a win. You did your part by showing up, and you just have to keep doing that. Eventually the kids will give you a break, or your dog will stop crapping on the floor, I promise. So don’t give up when it gets a little hard. Challenges are par for the course.
Track your progress for each time you do something for yourself. It will continue to motivate you to keep going!
3) Dig into Personal Development
I love personal development books. They inspire me, and give me the tools I need to fulfill my vision. But finding the time to sit down and read an actual book is hard. At least it is for me.
And this is why Audible is life. When your day is already filled to the brim, you need to use your time wisely. I can do the laundry, cook dinner, drive, etc and listen to a book at the same time. So if you don’t have a subscription, totally look into it.
If you are interested, some of my favorites personal development books can be found here.
I also love podcasts for the same reason. There are so many great ones out there with virtually every topic under the sun.
They say what you focus on grows, so surround yourself with inspiring material that is going to push you towards the version of you that you know you can be.
I’d love to hear one way you are going to start working towards becoming an even better version of yourself. Please share in the comments!